“You Got To Change And That’s Not Easy” Trouble Child / Joni Mitchell  (Mitchell)

“You Got To Change And That’s Not Easy” Trouble Child / Joni Mitchell (Mitchell)

The question of our approach to change is never easy but wait until you read/hear the full lyric; “Knowing Your Attitude’s All Wrong And You Got To Change And That’s Not Easy”.

There has been enough written about Change and Change Management to suggest that we should have cracked it by now.

Change is nothing new; it’s no surprise and we’re surrounded by it, so what is so hard? Indeed most of us like to change. Who amongst us eats the same food every day? Who can tell me that they are wearing exactly the same clothes as yesterday (and will do tomorrow)? Have you never re-decorated a room in your house?

 

We like change. We don’t love change but some people say they “embrace change”, although I’m never quite sure what that means…

Change theorists break it down for us. Kotter talks about the steps in a change process. Bridges talks about the transitions between the steps and Lewin talks about manipulating the phases of change. So far so good – but change does not just happen at a Logical Level.

 

It is our emotional reaction to change that creates what change means. If a change does not affect you or stir you in the slightest then it is not a change for you.

As Shakespeare said, “Nothing is good nor bad, but our thinking makes it so”.

 

If you think or feel that the change is affecting you (for good or bad) then it gets personal. Of the theorists Kubler-Ross gets closest to this when she talks of the Transition Curve. Acknowledging how you feel about the change at given points in your journey and this takes a level of self-awareness.

 

In this case, self-awareness that makes you know that your attitude is not what you need it to be; self-awareness that drives you to make the change rather than the change driving you.

 

Maybe it’s time for a makeover – better go get the Pasting Table.